“What are the patterns that are preventing me from being present to myself and others at this moment and in my life?”
What is NARM?
The Neuro Affective Relational Model (NARM) is a depth oriented pyschotherapy model that works to increase our connection to ourselves and others. It seeks to answer the question “What are the patterns that are preventing me from being present to myself and
others at this moment and in my life?”
Most of us want to feel:
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Connection. We feel that we belong in the world. We are in touch with our body and our emotions and capable of consistent connection with others.
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Attunement. Our ability to know what we need and to recognize, reach out for, and take in the abundance that life offers.
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Trust. We have an inherent trust in ourselves and others. We feel safe enough to allow a healthy interdependence with others.
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Autonomy. We are able to say no and set limits with others. We speak our mind without guilt or fear.
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Love-Sexuality. Our heart is open and we are able to integrate a loving relationship with a vital sexuality.
To the degree that these five basic needs are met, we experience regulation and connection. We feel safe and trusting of our environment, fluid and connected to ourselves and others. We experience a sense of regulation and expansion. To the degree that these basic needs are not met, we develop survival styles to try to manage the disconnection and dysregulation.
"The spontaneous movement in all of us is toward connection and health. No matter how withdrawn and isolating we have become, or how serious the trauma we have experienced, on the deepest level, just as a plant spontaneously moves towards the sun, there is in each of us an impulse moving toward connection. "