About Me

When people reach out for therapy, they’re often carrying an unspoken question: Do you really know how to help me?

It’s a vulnerable thing to ask, even silently. Especially when you’ve already tried so hard to keep it together on your own.

A Little About Me

I’m Ruth Trujillo Pertew, LCSW, a blingual (English/Spanish) psychotherapist with 16 years of experience. I’m also a Latin American immigrant and a first-generation professional, and I know firsthand what it’s like to carry a lot—to be the strong one, the responsible one, the one who holds it all together. I am a Master NARM Practitioner.

My own healing journey has shown me the power of being witnessed without judgment, without pressure, and without needing to explain everything away. That’s the kind of presence I bring into therapy: warm, spacious, and attuned.

You Are In the Right Place

If you’ve ever wondered why you keep falling into the same patterns—overthinking, people-pleasing, pulling away in relationships—you’re not alone. These struggles don’t appear out of nowhere. They’re often rooted in the ways we learned to cope as children.

• If you weren’t consistently seen or validated, you may have learned to doubt yourself or work harder to prove your worth.

• If closeness once felt unsafe, you may now protect yourself by pulling back just when you most want connection.

• If you carried too much responsibility early on, you may still find it hard to put your own needs first without guilt.

These strategies were wise and protective at the time. They helped you survive. But now, as an adult, they may leave you feeling anxious, disconnected, or like no matter what you do, it’s never enough.

How I Can Help

This is where therapy comes in. My role isn’t to tell you who you should be, but to create a space where you can explore who you already are—beyond the patterns that keep you stuck.

My approach is relational and somatically informed, grounded in the NeuroAffective Relational Model (NARM). This means we look not only at what’s happening now but at why those patterns took hold in the first place—and how they can begin to loosen. Together, we work at the root, not just at the surface, so that you can feel more free, connected, and alive.

Clients often tell me they feel both deeply understood and gently challenged in our work. That combination—warm presence with a clear focus—allows healing to unfold in a way that feels safe and sustainable. Set up a consultation today.

What I Want You to Know

• Your struggles make sense. They are not signs of weakness, but of how hard you’ve worked to get by.

• These patterns can change. With the right support, new possibilities open up.

• You don’t have to do this alone. Therapy offers a space where all parts of you are welcome—and where you can begin to feel more grounded, more alive, and more true to yourself.